Self-acceptance is the doorway to our authentic power. When this true power is lacking, it’s one of the biggest stumbling blocks to a person’s solid sense of self as well as serenity. Without it, there is no true freedom in our lives. Mental chatter and the relentless monkey mind dismantle even the most disciplined focus…
When we begin to accept ourselves, we’re able to embrace every part of ourself unconditionally. Self-acceptance also helps us acknowledge our strengths and capabilities, not to mention out vulnerabilities and limitations. There is an awareness of our feelings, behaviour and our impact on others. Not even our idiosyncrasies are disowned.
When we are unable to practice self-acceptance, we do what is called self-loathing. We are unable to accept our shortcomings nor do we own our strengths. We’re not comfortable in our skin.
– Are you super hard on yourself?
– Do you give and give yourself, but it’s never enough?
– Do you pick apart and criticize your best contributions?
– Does your day end with you rehearsing all of the things you could have, should have, or might have done or said differently?
How good would your life be if you had regular, deep connection and inspiration from within that you could rely on?
How different would life be if you could tap into your spiritual self in a blink of an eye?
Whether you know it or not, self-acceptance is critical to achieving personal freedom in life.
And whether you are aware of it or not, your thoughts and emotions control the energy and behaviour you portray to the people around you.
The limbic brain, considered the emotional brain overrides our rational thinking. How you live your life, the quality of it and how your future unfolds will ultimately come down to how you deal with your emotions on a day-to-day basis.
So, if you are ready to overcome this obstacle in your life, here is a simple step by step practice which will enhance your life and help you grow in self-awareness, emotional fitness and self-acceptance. This won’t happen overnight but if you keep practicing and applying these methods to your daily regime your behaviours and emotions will shift to a better and happier place.
- Be kind to yourself
It’s time to accept the fact that no one in this world judges you more than you judge yourself. To be honest, you can be your own worst enemy, so, need to get out of your way, and start developing patience. Be patient with yourself, and accept your flaws
- Confront your fears
We all have a past that includes some bad, devastating things. We each have baggage to go with that bad history. We’re human after all, and we’re bound to be hurt by something. But it’s the fear of the unknown that keeps us trapped and frozen. We’re so afraid to experience something unfamiliar that we allow ourselves to stay stuck in what we know. It’s important to try to take baby steps to create a change in yourself. Start by making a list of big and small things that scare you. Start with one small thing, face it, and then understand why it’s not so scary. Then you can move onto the next small thing, and so on.
- Stay positive
Surround yourself with goodness. Write yourself sweet notes. Hang up posters with positive affirmations. Download an app on your phone that will send you motivational quotes on a daily basis. When you start to feel insecurity and doubt creeping into your thoughts, turn to one of your good things. Remember to tell that little defeating voice inside your head to be quiet and that you refuse to go to that dark place.
- Accept imperfection
Let go of the ideal. Start to let go of what you think perfection looks like. Life is perfection in all its imperfections. Don’t let an obsession for perfection slow you down in your journey to accomplishing your goals. Good is good enough.
- Don’t take it personally
If something offends you, stop and ask yourself why you’re offended. Always make a conscious effort to stop assuming you know what people mean. Don’t get defensive about something you’ve internalized. Chances are people don’t want to hurt you to begin with, however they might not know how to communicate effectively either. Things get lost in translation. If you’re not clear on the meaning of a specific comment or reaction, all you have to do is ask.
You can’t grow without forgiveness. But understand that it’s a process, and it will always take time. Forgive others for things they didn’t mean to do. Try to forgive others for things they didn’t know they did. Forgive yourself for mistakes you think you’ve made. And remember to forgive yourself if things don’t change quickly enough.
Blog by Tony Nguyen
Senior Personal Trainer in Rushcutters Bay, Potts Point, Darling Point, Edgecliff, Double Bay
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